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How to Choose Your Own Bridesmaid Dress:

We’ve been planning our dream weddings since we were five years old. So it’s no surprise that we can’t get enough of, a wedding inspiration site that lets you search through pics of swoon-worthy gowns, bouquets, and everything else you need for the big day. Once a week, the ladies behind will be sharing their best tips for getting through the craziness of the season—whether you’re standing at the altar or enjoying a view of it from the audience. 


More and more brides are letting their bridesmaids choose their own bridesmaids dresses, and while this sounds great in theory (you may actually be able to wear it again!), all that freedom can leave you wondering where to even begin when shopping. Here are some tips on choosing a bridesmaid dress that both you and the bride will love.

Ask the bride exactly what her expectations are
She may be letting you choose your own dresses because she thinks she’s doing you a favor, but it can be stressful for anyone who doesn’t love shopping or is worried the bride won’t like their choices. Ask for specific guidelines and make it clear you’re happy to have her feedback. If she isn’t sure what to tell you, suggest that she choose a couple of unifying elements for the dresses. Whether it’s the fabric or the silhouette, choosing one or two details that make all of the dresses feel like family will create a cohesive look (and make shopping much easier).


(Photo: Jill Thomas on The Brides Cafe via

If the bride only gives you a color, get more specific
There are a lot of shades of pink out there and the bride could be thinking shades of salmon while you’re thinking shades of fuchsia. If she’s being vague, create a bundle with individual dresses in the colors you like, along with some other shades, to see how they look together. You can show it to the bride and see which ones she prefers, and then pass the info along to the other bridesmaids. If the bridal party seems concerned that it won’t look balanced, you may all decide to “claim” specific shades within the color family as well, just to keep things balanced. But don’t assign colors on behalf of the bride; no one should get stuck with a dress she hates.


Take the lead
A lot of bridesmaids worry that they’ll be the one wearing the “wrong” dress and no one is brave enough to go first. But you can help out the bride by taking the plunge. If you’re not sure what to choose, show the bride a few of your options and have her pick the one she likes best. Then share it with the other bridesmaids so they have a better idea of what kind of dress they should coordinate with.


(Photo: Eric Kelley on Bridal Musings via

Show your personality with your hair and makeup
The bride obviously thinks you have good enough style if she’s opting to go this route, so start hunting for a hairstyle that goes with the dress you chose. We love soft romantic curls (which you can create yourself with the Sedu Clipless Iron) and we’re sure the bride will too.

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